Last month, just after lunch, I was working at my desk when I received a call. Later on, I had to make an international phone call to Brazil to found out that – as expected – my dad passed away. I shared with you not long time ago his battle against cancer but as always, if it is not diagnosed at the beginning, chances are not that good if you have cancer. My dad used to smoke. A lot! When I was a kid, I remember when my dad said to mom that his doctor advised him to quit smoking immediately – and he did.
15 years later, just a over a year that he’s retired, he was coughing a lot and when he went to the doctor, automatically his doctor asked for some exams. Two weeks later, he was having a surgery. That’s when his battle started. He’s had lung cancer. Then, the only way to win is to go through the chemotherapy. And he did. Now, time for another treatment – radiotherapy – and he did. 20 sessions later, tired he did not have conditions to re-start the chemotherapy again. He should stay at home, eat and get ready to come back. Every time I called him he always said he’s OK. He never said I am not good. Always tried to give me the impressions that he was getting better, and better, and better. But this did not happen. And I knew it!
In a period of 6 months, I went to Brazil three times. The last one, I was in Brazil to attend his funeral. I believe in God. And I would like to tell you that I was praying to God to call him and leave us here, with his sense of humor, his kindness and all the good things he represents to me. Finally this happened and I felt good about it. Today I understand that we’re here for a period of time, and we should do the right things in our life.
What surprises me the most is the possibility that I have to change your life as well. As simple as this. Keeping this blog up to date is a difficult task. Sometimes, I don’t write a post, but be sure that I am answering your e-mail. If not yours, from another reader. Right now, there are more than 100 e-mails that I still need to answer – and I will. Just understand that I have to pay my bills – and this blog unfortunately does not pay them. In addition to this, I am taking two courses at the University of Toronto and boy, I have to find time to study because if not, I am lost and go nuts However, what keeps me here doing what I do is your support. And there’s nothing better than this. The opportunity to serve and learn from you, far away from me (and even living in Canada or in Brazil) is unforgettable and unprecedented.
I thank God for the opportunity that I have now in having you at my side, the opportunity you give me to go to your house, your work, your precious time, your family and be known as someone that is doing a little bit to make this world a better place to live. You can pay me doing the same: referring this blog as a place where we could be friends, online friends – but friends, passing by a strange and smiling, telling your friends you care about them, they can count with you when they need, volunteering, and being happy.
FYI: Lessons learned from my dad. RIP. Love you, forever and we will see each other sooner or later, but I am sure we will. And I can’t wait for this moment. In the meantime, I am still here doing what you taught me. Your beloved son! Thank you.